Ahhhh…Italy. Home to carbs, gelato and lots and lots of men. Tall, dark, and handsome men. And creepy men. And men that confess to loving you a little too fast.
Ladies, I hate to break it to you, but the fantasy of your romantic Italian getaway where you meet the man of your dreams is a little bit far fetched. Now, if we’re all being honest here, we know that every single girl that comes to Italy has this idea in the back of her head of meeting a handsome Italian man to sweep her up on his Vespa and ride off into the sunset or onto an Italian stage, since he’s an Italian Celebrity named Paolo (no…wait, that’s a Lizzie McGuire Movie). And yes, it is hard to resist the coos of “Ciao Bella” as you walk on by. Not to mention, Italian men are famous for being charming and some of the worlds best lovers.
But alas, I present to you, the top ten reasons why dating an Italian man is not all it’s cracked up to be.
10 reasons not to date italian men
1. Your phone might break with their rapid influx of messages
They will call you. And text you. And call you again. At first having a man’s full attention is flattering, but these Stage 10 clingers soon become more like that annoying mosquito you want to swat away.
Ok Lorenzo, chill your roll. We get it, we’re beautiful
2. And giving an Italian man attention is like inviting a stalker over
3. If their pick up lines aren’t cheesy…they’re just plain weird
4. They will do anything to get your attention
And I mean anything. Grabbing your arm at a bar, following you for blocks, or if you’re like this guy, showing off his high kick. Because what doesn’t make a girl swoon more than a man in Jorts trying to flip on the street at 2 am?
5. Your lack of interest doesn’t bother them a bit
Just as they are aggressive in their approach, they are aggressive in their pursuit. Forget the days of the cold shoulder turning a guy off. Here, it just keeps them going.
6. All Italian men take American girls on the same “Romantic” date
A walk up to one of the highest points in Florence to overlook the sunset on an early summer evening, *siiiiigh* how romantic. Yeah, it is…until you see a dozen Italian men taking fresh-off-the-plane American girls, all wide-eyed and excited, at the exact same time. I kid you not, at 2 in the afternoon, I witnessed two couples just getting it in the middle of the Piazza, right next to about 100 people taking pictures. It sounds like an Italian fantasy come true, until you realize that you’re the 108th girl they’ve taken to “see” Piazzale Michelangelo…that month.
7. They get attached faster than you can say “Piacere” (nice to meet you)
8. Google Translate makes for an awkward threesome
While the thought of an Italian man cooing sweet nothings in your ear all night is enticing, the language barrier becomes more of an annoyance than anything as the sun rises and you realize you have absolutely no idea what he is saying.
9. Their compliments might make you uncomfortable…
10. If it does work out, you’ll be pressured to never go home
And as wonderful as Italy is, that means giving up your family and friends, for a man that likes to eat your lips (see above).
BONUS** Most likely the home he wants you to stay at belongs to his mom and dad. In fact, if you stay, you get to share his childhood bedroom with them next door. Whoopee! Because you know, 28 year old men still live at home and their moms do their laundry. Have fun with that.
Girl, your racism is showing. I’ve been living in Milan for years and I can assure you that dating an Italian man is HARD because 1) There is plenty of choice when it comes to dating – you won’t spend time chasing a person who isn’t responsive/ who isn’t showing interest; 2) They’re busy with their social lives & can be very business-oriented. I often feel like I have to be the one who needs to pursue the other! Very different from my native Belgium, where there’s a large Italian minority anyway.
It sounds like you don’t know what Italian (men) are like. Maybe it’s because you’re not European, so you probably think that a Southern European man must be so foreign to you since that’s what Hollywood taught you. The same goes with passionate and awrkard Frenchmen, cold Germans, loud Spaniards, and so on… Well, think again. You shouldn’t dehumanise people like that just to fit a narrative. And also get that chip off your shoulder…
Yes Italians guys are exactly like that, totally pathetic and also kind of dangerous, they are sooo desperate for having a girl friend that they lose control and end up being overwhelming and dangerous. Never date italians or muslims if you are a western woman.
😂😂 I laughed so much lol its cute tough
Its so adorable
I find this very adorable lol women cry when a guy is bad guy and if man like italian cherish them they tallk badly about them pff 😑
😂😂 I laighed so much lol its cute tough
101% CORRECT bombarded with text, insensitive and many more! ! CAPITALIZED! why they can’t even figure out what’s wrong? Added to the blog, the Italian guy was like if you wanna sleep over you don’t have to BEG to stay!!!!!!!! Can you believe that? But I hope not every Italian are like that! Superb!!!!!!!!
haha this made me laugh out loud 😂 thanks for a great article 😂 my dad is italian and i spent alot of time there visiting my grandma… i made a demo record there once too so i suppose i got to know the culture a bit… defo some nuggets of truth in your article 🥰
Stupid woman. The end.
I am an Italian man. What to say?
I think many men in Italy are like that, especially in centre-south Italy.
They are not accustomed to having beautiful ladies smiling and taking time for them, as italian women are normally very strict and conservative, and tend to have the power in the gender relationship. At work for example, women are pampered all the time by men colleagues. The Italian culture put women on a pedestal, like they were goddess. As a consequence women are very confident while men are weak and will do everything to obey women and satisfy them.
When we meet foreign women, so open to dialogue and equal treatment, italian men get Crazy, It seems like a Dream to them.
So in conclusion you are right, even though you are stereotyping a whole country which Is very diverse, as if It was an italo-american neighborhood.
wow, they’re a lot of men the world over that behave this way. yes, it makes it difficult to find the ones who are mature but let us face it. they’re italian, puerto rican, english, and (i hate to break this to you.) american men that behave this way, especially at the beginning of a relationship and with women who are not native to their area. i agree with one person who posted here. we americans both vilanize, idolize, and fetishize other countries. would it make you feel better or worse to know that these are acting on the “stereotype” that american women are sexually easy when traveling overseas. you were an easy target for this type of personality. that does not mean that all italian men are like this after all i’m sure you noticed that at least half the male population didn’t know you existed.
Am currently dating a guy from Italy here in New Zealand. Whilst he’s somewhat toned down in comparison to the article, the stereotypes are still very prevalent. I’m glad that I figured out early that it’s cultural and not that he’s actually so enamoured of me haha! Thanks for the lighthearted read.
Also my sister was 13 when she first modelled in Italy. Her experience was exactly as described. She found it terrifying haha (poor thing! We were raised very conservatively)
Well you’re a bigoted little creep, andrea.
Racist article full of idiots. Whoever wrote it did it only because he suffers from an immense inferiority complex. I feel sorry for it!
am actually looking for an Italian gentleman to date and get married too!!
i love your country,language,culture,food and all about you.
This article is a bit lame – you’re telling people not to date Italian men because you had bad experiences with some men who happened to be Italian. That doesn’t mean all Italians will bombard you with texts or act weird, like you’re saying in your xenophobic article.
The fact you mentioned the Lizzie McGuire movie shows you know little about Italy in general – Italy and Italians aren’t what anglo saxons show on their movie productions. Many people loathe American movies here because they’re so blatantly dumb and offensive towards a culture that isn’t monolithic and varies greatly from Sicily to Vallée d’Aoste, from Trieste to Cagliari. So talking about “Italians” is dumb already, given that 1. We’re people, not a stereotype & 2. There isn’t a given Italian culture. But you’re not Italian and you surely will never be, so you cannot understand that.
Maybe you shouldn’t fetishise Italians, you know: we do not live to fulfil foreign people’s dumb fantasies. We’re not some caricature for you to make fun of. And we’d rather avoid arrogant and contemptuous people like you who think it’s okay to chat shit about us.
I can’t say it’s all Italian men but I just came out of a short relationship with one. The first 2-3 weeks I got bombarded texts, photos and phone calls. I didn’t always wanted to answer. All the nice touching sweet words which were flattering but I felt I couldn’t say anything, giving advice or opinions without being judged or making me feel guilty. I couldn’t take it anymore and ended my 2 months relationship, with a bit of regret but his ego and bitterness with the split let me that I did the right thing. The most funny thing is he was 47 and a lawyer by education… That really let you think…
Who Hurt you.. lol
Spot on! I lived over 10 years in Italy and this is exactly how it always went in my experience (literally everyone I ever met expect for two people). I have never been fond of stereotyping so I really hope not all Italian men are like that. But we should also be honest in that this behaviour is not uncommon, even if “not all Italian men are like that”. It is not a rare behaviour if it is culturally apparent from Italian men-mother attachment styles, predominant in dating therapy, and showcased in dating Tv shows…etc
Having said that, this behaviour makes it impossible for many to consider dating Italians (in that case maybe misjudging the “good ones” too). When you see no chemistry from the beginning and you’re honest about it, many turn it into self-blame or literally bombard you (points 1, 2, 4) and when they see it’s a dead end, it often becomes insults. So to men who act like that: just accept that some people will not like you without needing to justify themselves. It’s part of life and you shouldn’t be that insecure to doubt/need to proove yourself accordingly.
Now, if someone is like ” I don’t wanna stereotype, and I am gonna suspend any judgement until I know this person better” (cause they’d also allure you with “you can’t judge me se non mi dai la possibilita di farmi conoscere); then may God be on her side when she realised their behaviour is not compatible (it’s worse than a divorce even if she just chatted once with the guy). Even if she clearly was in a “knowing-phase” and did not express any commitment or feeling (point 5), they’d call her hypocrite, a liar…. just based on her changed opinion (cause for them changing your opinion is a sign of bipolarism and not of basing your judgement on gathered information!!). So to men who behave like that: maybe you should just medicate your hurt ego (we all have a hurt ego when rejected) but don’t manipulate women by making them feel guilty. I am saying that cause you would either end up with manipulatble codependent women, or still living in your mum’s basement at 45 (cause such behaviour will limit healthy everyday interactions and not just with the potential partner).
To all women who had been hurt or even abused by such behaviour (which I was), keep the faith that not all people are the same even if born within the same culture, but also be open to other cultures that are not very distant from your way of doing/thinking and you will have more chances to find your perfect match (now happily married to an English guy 🙂 !).
Good luck to everyone, including Italian men who recognise themselves in such behaviour!
As an Italian Man this article and some comments here are just ridiculous. You can’t say all italians are like that, even if you lived there for years. We are a Nation of 60 million people and i don’t believe you met most of us. Its also a bit sexist to over generalise us italians in terms of dating habits. Yes you made bad experiances and i’m sorry for that but you maybe also need to learn how to read strangers better before letting them into your privacy. And also for explenation, here in italy, its common for the italian women that they say no, even if they are interessed and then as a male you need to fight for her and bombard her with attention so she sees that you really like her. Maybe some of my countrymen adapted this behaviour so much that they can’t play the charming careful guy anymore even to tourists. To all women, curious to gwt to know to an italian man, go discover it by yourself, don’t trust every stranger like in every country on earth, ne careful with some men (also like every country on earth), don’t come with stereotypes, let yourself into our culture and cut of your english world way thinking of your sorroundings. You won’t be disappointed because you will discover that we italians are just normal people like everywhere else in the world and not like in this article.
Greetings to you all, from Catania, Sicily
wow… exactly correct 😐
I love you guys!!!
We love you toooo!!!!
Eh kinda stereotypy
I’m italian American and this is the most cringeworthy thing I think I have ever read/seen in my entire life. Italians do not all act like that, atleast from what I know. Whoever those italian guys are sound massively immature. Lol, embarrassing.
this is special for “foreign girls”..they act normal toward Italian girls. I get the same texts as mentioned in this post but my Italian girlfriends get the normal/nice experience